I never asked for this crazy. It's the "normal" I learned as a child,
which I carried to the ones I love and infected them.
Codependent does NOT mean I need someone or have to be with someone.
Codependent means I’m so busy trying to fix everyone else’s problems,
I forget to take care of myself.
The ONLY cure for Codependency is to LOVE and CARE for YOURSELF.
So now what? This is a truly simple program for extremely complicated people. It works, but you have to work it, ALL THE TIME.
STEP 1: Get the Characteristics of a Codependent. Highlight all that you are. BE HONEST. Please note that ALL of the behaviors on this list are not healthy. Characteristics of a Codependent. Click for Your OWN GOOGLE Doc Copy (You must be logged in to Google to open) or PDF Version.
STEP 2: Get the 12 Steps for Codependents. Begin with Step 1. Don't skip around. Be BRUTALLY HONEST with yourself. Get a journal or some plain old paper and write down your feelings and thoughts. Now is a good time to set boundaries and NOT share everything with everyone. *NEW* Guide to Working the 12-Steps for Codependents. Click for Your OWN GOOGLE Doc Copy (You must be logged in to Google to open) or PDF Version.
STEP 3: Find a Codependency Anonymous Meeting near you and attend. You are not alone. www.coda.org. Get a sponsor. They are helpful when learning how to trust. If you do not have a CoDA meeting close, they do have online and phone meetings available.
Extra READING Help:
This book will help you understand what codependency is and how to overcome it.
To Help with Communication Skills
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, 3rd Edition: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (Nonviolent Communication Guides) by Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD and Deepak Chopra
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About Kelley M Likes
I'd like to begin by saying the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints did NOT make me codependent. I found the church when I was 16 and joined when I was 18.
My codependency is due to being raised in an alcoholic home combined with years of physical, mental and sexual abuse.
The Church, if anything, saved my life and helped me to recover, even when I didn't know I was so very broken.
So, you've found out you are codependent, what next? From Day 1 until today, I hope my journey is a help and benefit to you!
You can get better! All it takes is loving yourself and you are WORTH loving. You are a child of God and He LOVES you.
I've broken my journey up into multiple parts.
My Journey contains:
Answers to Questions posted on Quora.com.
My Days, which is a day by day, week by week journal of my recovery.
With the Steps, I've broken them down into bite sized chunks with all the questions and activities listed.