Post date: May 18, 2018 2:33:40 PM
FRIDAY - FRIDAY
Sometimes life comes at you fast and you find yourself slipping back into old behaviors. Stop. Take a breath. Take time for yourself.
"But so much crazy stuff is going on," you scream.
Yup. I know. That's when you know you aren't taking care of yourself. You are letting the crazy take over
God knows you. He loves you. He wants what's best for you. He will guide you in the direction you need to go, to reach your full potential.
"But it is so hard!" you scream.
Breathe. Inhale, exhale, inhale, exhale.
Life is stressful, but REMEMBER:
Worrying doesn't change anything, it never has and it never will. Your brain needs time to recharge. You need time to recharge. You can't fall into a well of craziness and expect to keep your cool. You will drown and pull down the rest of the house with you.
If you are late to work and it's driving you crazy, well, either except you are going to be late for work, or figure out a way not to be late. Once, I was so upset about being late for church I announced to the family the night before, I'm leaving at 8:30, whoever wants to come with me, be ready. And guess what, a couple kids rode with me and a couple rode with their dad and were late to church. But at least we were all there. I did what I had to do for me.
If the house is a mess, well, except it is a mess or do something. Whining and complaining doesn't do anything. Kids tone that out completely. On the flip side, showing your son exactly how to clean the bathroom and then helping him do it to your standards, providing positive feedback and rewards, works.
We have a marble jar at our house. It's for service freely given. So if I ask you to fold the towels and you don't really want to, but you do it anyway, pay yourself in marbles. Each marble is $1 and you get to pick what you feel you deserve. It works great. I pay myself in marbles. So if I have to clean up someone's mess, I pay myself. Then I use the money to do something just for me because I earned it.
Yes, I get crabby. Yes, I get tired. I also try to listen when my family says, "Hey mom, you're acting really grumpy." And yes, it makes me mad when they tell me I'm being codependent, but you know what? They are right. Truly right. Me getting mad, well that's proof I was acting codependent.
I'm not perfect, I'm trying and yes, some days I want to curl up into a ball and just cry. And yes, there are days I wonder why I'm on this earth. It's called a bad day or bad moment. They pass and help you to recognize a good day and be thankful.
You can do this, keep climbing up the hill! Eventually, you will become a really good climber!