Codependent does NOT mean I need someone or have to be with someone.
Codependent means I’m so busy trying to fix everyone else’s problems, I forget to take care of myself.
The steps and guiding questions are listed below.
Click on each link (Steps 1-12) to see the step and question or download the entire list.
Step 1 : We admitted we were powerless over others - that our lives had become unmanageable.
Step 2 : Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Step 3 : Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.
Step 4 : Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Step 5 : Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Step 6 : Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
Step 7 : Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
Step 8 : Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
Step 9 : Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
Step 10 : Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
Step 11 : Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out.
Step 12 : Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other codependents, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
I've created a Google Doc of the *NEW* Guide to Working the 12-Steps for Codependents.
A PDF Version and a WORD Version are attached below.
I found it useful to print out all of the pages and place them in a three ring binder along with some loose leaf paper.